Everyone seems to be talking about this book!
It’s called the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, by Mark Manson.
Then I started seeing this book everywhere. Literally everywhere! The book store, inside the Good Reads app, on the coffee table at a friend’s house.
Just warning you that I give away some parts of the book. If you plan to read the book, go ahead and stop here. Please return here after you read the book, because I’m curious if your review would match what I have to say about this book.
I really enjoyed the concept of the book, which is how to start living your life on your terms, and not be so consumed about what everyone else is expecting you to do. I’ve personally had to overcome being the “yes person,” the one who says yes to everyone else and ends up feeing exhausted at the end of the day.
Over the past decade, and especially the past few years I’ve started living life on my own terms. I am super selective about who I hang out with, and I’m very protective about my time especially that time spent with my family, because it is so precious.
Obviously, I completely agree with the author in that you cannot give a fuck about every single thing in life and you have to take time for what you love and yourself. However, some other things mentioned in this book leave me thinking that the author is very sad, angry and doesn’t have empathy for other human beings.
Here is one example of something in the book that just doesn’t jive with me. In his book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck – Mark Manson talks about what to do if your mom offers you her fine China and you think it’s ugly and don’t like China to begin with in the first place. He basically says you should tell your mom as such, that you don’t enjoy China and you don’t particularly like that pattern anyway. As I read the book I really thought that was kind of tacky. I mean honestly, in my humble opinion, why not politely accept the family heirloom and save it for your kids? Why does this family heirloom have to stop with you? I honestly wanted to shout to the author “sometimes it’s not about how YOU feel or what you want.”
The author went on to talk about ditching baby showers and even weddings!
I read that and thought “wow does this guy know what being a friend means?” I wanted to shout again “it’s not about YOU!!” Attending those events are all about giving your love, time and focus to people that matter to you. If you can’t be present for family and friends in their biggest moments,.. then maybe you just don’t care about them at all.
I honestly feel this book should be labeled, how to be unhappy, alone and miserable.
The few “tips” that weren’t completely selfish were things that anyone wearing their big girl panties or big boy underwear should already be doing, and probably are — such as limiting or removing social media, politely not engaging in politics, avoiding things you don’t want to do at work by scheduling days off or rewarding yourself after you do them. Um… dugh…
For me personally the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck was not worth my giving a fuck and reading it.